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16 Things You Should Remember When Everything’s The Worst

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1. You’re going through a thing. I don’t know what you’re going through, but it’s clearly something significant and when you’re going through something significant, you should honor that in the best way possible: by just letting it happen.

2. There is no use fighting this. You’re only going to make it worse by judging yourself for feeling like The Worst, hon.

3. Speaking of judging yourself? STOP IT. STOP IT RIGHT NOW.

4. You know what makes things go from manageable to miserable? Being in a shit mood or having a shit week or a shit month and then being super pissed off at yourself for feeling that way. As if you need more reasons to feel like shit. Come on.

5. Be kind to yourself. What if you completely accepted that things were going to be not okay for right now? How would you…

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You Think She Wants The Love That’s Portrayed In The Movies, But Here’s What She Actually Wants

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She doesn’t care about romance. She’s seen enough and she’s been through enough to know that romance to her means something different than it does to the people who produce romantic comedies. The people who make movies associate romance with huge diamonds and love at first sight and dramatic declarations of the heart.

But romance in her eyes means you bring over a pizza and the two of you excitedly spend a Friday night in your pajamas. Romance means you tell her she looks cute when she’s sleeping, even though she knows she does not. Her version of romance does not involve you proclaiming your love for her in a public place. Instead, the two of you are alone. Probably laying down. Your fingers running up and down her arm absentmindedly, out of habit, unable to stop. And you both stumble over your words, trying to say “I love…

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10 Ways You Are (Unknowingly) Sabotaging Your 20s

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1. You don’t take your 20s seriously in an effort to ‘make the most’ of them.

Despite the overwhelmingly popular notion that your 20s should be a throwaway period, statistically and biologically, they are the single most defining decade of your life. People are more commonly postponing marriage and major career moves until their 30s and beyond not to take a period of developmental downtime in their 20s, but to prepare, to lay the foundation on which everything else can build.

According to psychologist Meg Jay, 80% of life’s most defining moments happen by age 35. The first 10 years of your career have an exponential impact on the money you’re going to earn; more than half of Americans are married, living with or dating the person they will marry by 30; the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires for adulthood (so whatever you…

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15 Intimate Things Happy Couples Do That Have Nothing To Do With Sex

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1. Feeling comfortable – even enjoying – extended periods of silence. Not needing to fill every moment with something other than one another.

There’s no small talk. There’s no obligation to discuss things you don’t care about. No comments about the weather outside or questions about your boring job. Instead you bask in the beautiful silence, in the fact that you can sit and enjoy the presence of another person without feeling uncomfortable or antsy or weird. You begin to treasure this peaceful silence, because what it says to you is that you enjoy this person so much that you don’t feel the need to fill the space with meaningless words. The space is filled instead with heat and energy and an unspoken agreement between the two of you that you are just meant to sit in this car or lay in this bed or rest on this couch and just

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What It Feels Like To Fall Out Of Love

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It will start slowly, the way these things often do. It won’t feel slow; in fact, it will seem sudden — you’ll wake up and look over at the space next to you and think that something must have snapped in the night. But it didn’t happen there. It couldn’t have. You’ve long since abandoned the possibility that anything could happen in your sleep.

It will happen in the absence, in the nights they spent with their friends and you with yours. It’s good for you, you’ll rationalize. Everyone needs to spend some time apart. But time apart can tear you apart if you’re not careful, and slowly you will forget how to stitch yourself back together, how to return at the end of the day and fit yourself back into the crook of their neck, into the space between their arm and body like you never even left…

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18 Staples To Make Your Wardrobe Perfect

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1. Classic black denim, because whether you worshipped the cool rock girls in high school, or simply need something you can throw on in the morning without a second thought — or both — few things will ever have your back like black denim.

2. A go-to lipstick for days when you need to pull it together. Because that one color that works on your otherwise bare face exists, and it is worth hunting down.

3. A style idol. You can be a Beyonce disciple or worship the Cool French Girls of years past, but whatever your muse, sometimes you need someone to point you in the right direction (if not for your actual look, then maybe just the vibe).

4. The right-fitting bra. Go to a professional shop. Get fitted. It. Will. Change. Your. Life.

5. A favorite pair of sunglasses. For days when you need to hide behind…

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24 Best Romantic Hacks For Your Relationship, As Explained By 13 People

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Producer’s note: Someone on Quora asked: What are the best romantic relationship hacks? Here are some of the best answers that’s been pulled from the thread.


1. Tarek Nassar

Here’s one, tested and approved. Keep a small notebook, well hidden from her, and from time to time, write down a note about something she liked, wanted to buy, a place she wanted to go or something she wanted to do. Keep the dates as well. Then, on a special occasion or when you can afford it (timewise as well as moneywise), get her that little something she wanted to buy or take her out to that restaurant she fancied etc. The key is NOT to do this immediately after she asks for it but rather to wait long enough for “it” to leave her immediate thoughts. With this, she knows you care but more…

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Unrequited Love

Few Relationship In Earth Never Die

FRIENDS. They are often the first person you run to when you have problems, when you feel so wasted, when just wanted to scream your anxiety or you feel these extreme happiness. We claim them as our brothers and sisters from other womb. They are the few people we choose from the sea of people for we know they are best persons that fits us. They reflect our personality. They are part of us, our system.

I can consider myself to be having yes, many friends, but let me tell you, i carefully chose them. I consider them rare, the diamonds among the stones. They stood out from the crowd. They are not just another people in my life, they are more like family to me.

I want to fathom every thought I have, cant fully scribble every inch of emotions I am feeling right now, and I consider writing this down would just be a remedy for I can’t find anyone to tell these to. I want to consider few people who would understand this dilemma. Some people might find this as over reacting but for me I guess this is just completely normal. And I am trying fix this dilemma for few weeks now.

I am missing these people, yes I terribly miss them. Every day is a blessing, but sometime I feel like it is cursing me. It is burning me. How hard can it be to spend the whole day with people few inches from you but felt like your miles away from each other? Or am I just over reacting again? That awkward feeling every time I try to talk to them, that distant emotion, those colds words. I am feeling severely different, I just want to have this okay-fine-feeling and that it-is-just-normal or just-be-used-to-it-feeling every day I am with them. I want to bring back the old us, the old kind of friendship we shared, but due to some course of events, I find doing that close to impossible. I want to be more positive and mature in dealing with these situation but I can’t seem to act like one.

I am just seeking for their understanding, i guess they did understand me, but I cant understand why do i have to feel and undergo these rough turn of events. I am sorry for that thing I did. And I guess since none of them can read these, it would still be impossible to change the course we are tracking now. I just need to gather inside strength to tell these to them, and hopefully in time, in the rightest time possible, I will.

and I want to let them know that I cared and I am affected.

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30 Things You Should Do (At Least) Once A Year

I will try all of these. bucket list!!

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1. Clean your closet, and get rid of anything you haven’t worn, anything that doesn’t fit you, anything that is too worn or ripped to repair, or anything you haven’t worn in at least a year (save for your one “interview” suit or dress, etc). Other than that, start fresh.

2. Visit your hometown, even if everybody else has moved away. Visit the last town you lived in if it’s close enough or you’re going to be passing by anyway. Remember why you don’t live there anymore. Feel grateful for what you have in comparison to what you had.

3. Go somewhere you’ve never been before, whether that’s a foreign country or a part of your own country you’ve always wanted to see but never did. It can be an hour away or a three-day road trip away. Regardless, plan to just see something you’ve never seen before — just once.

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23 Little Ways You Know Someone Actually Loves You

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1. They act the same way around you as they do around their friends.

2. They would go out of their way to bring you food and medicine and walk your dog when you’re sick, even though your place is in the exact opposite direction than would otherwise be convenient to them — and they wouldn’t consider it going out of the way.

3. They’re not afraid to call you on your bullshit, but do it in a way that is kind and not judgmental.

4. They don’t freak out if you don’t text them in x amount of hours, because they feel solid and confident in what you have together.

5. But they also know that if they miss you, it’s on them to text — or better yet, call — and say hi… while not overstepping boundaries and bombarding you with messages (especially if you’re in a meeting).

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